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Over 40 Lesbian Dating New Zealand

40 Lesbian is a laid back place for lesbians over 40 right across Aotearoa, from Napier to Nelson. Set up a free profile, see which women are nearby and say hello when you're ready. A coffee in the sun, a mountain bike ride or a long lazy brunch could be the start.

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How Does 40 Lesbian Work?

We've made our dating website as easy as possible to use. Just follow these simple steps...

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What is 40+ Lesbian Dating

How Does Online Lesbian Dating Work Over 40 in New Zealand?

Once upon a time, meeting a woman who liked women in New Zealand meant a hopeful look across the sideline at Saturday sport, a friend's not so subtle setup or a long drive to the city. It got there, eventually. Now you can start from the couch with a cuppa.

On 40 Lesbian you jot down a bit about yourself, add a photo or two and let other members see who you are. Whether you're in Hamilton, Palmerston North or Invercargill, you can keep it local or look across both islands.

Spot someone who makes you smile? Send her a message and see what happens. A walk up Mount Maunganui, a swim at your favourite river spot or a long weekend in Wanaka could be next. Why not sign up now for free and see who's online near you?

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Why Choose 40 Lesbian?

40 Lesbian is made for women over 40 who love women, so you won't be swiping past people who've never heard of a landline. It's a calmer place than the big apps and open to women from Cape Reinga to Bluff.

Simplicity

The site is easy on a phone, tablet or laptop, no tech degree needed. If you get stuck, the support team is just a message away.

Safety Matters

Chat on the site before sharing your number or address. If anyone seems a bit off, let the support team know.

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Lesbian Dating Over 40 in New Zealand: Your Questions Answered

Is 40 Lesbian free to join?

Yes. Setting up your profile and photos is free, so you can have a good look around. When you'd like to start chatting, upgrade to Premium and message the women you fancy.

How do I find lesbians over 40 near me in New Zealand?

Use our quick search for a preview of women near you, whether you're in Waikato, Canterbury or Southland. You can also browse single lesbians over 40, and once you've joined you can search by region or town.

What should I write in my profile?

Write it like you're chatting at the bach with friends of friends: what you love, what you're hoping for and your best tramping story. Then add a recent photo.

I've only just come out. Is this site for me?

Yes. Whether you came out years ago or are just getting started, you're welcome here. There's no rush, so take it at your own pace.

How do I stay safe when meeting someone?

Chat on the site first, meet somewhere public and tell a friend your plans. Never send money to someone you haven't met. If something feels wrong, report it to Netsafe, and in an emergency call 111.

How do I contact support or close my account?

The support page is where to go.

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